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Writer's pictureSarita-Linda Rocco

Spiritual Bypassing: The Art of Skipping Over Your Feelings Like a Pro

Updated: Nov 6

In the vibrant world of yoga, where we strive for awareness and positive energy, there's a phenomenon known as spiritual bypassing that can quietly undermine our growth. This blog will delve into what spiritual bypassing is, how it affects our emotional health, and how we can navigate this challenge —while keeping a light heart about it all.


What Is Spiritual Bypassing?


Spiritual bypassing is when folks use spiritual beliefs or practices to avoid dealing with their painful emotions. It’s like saying, “I’m just going to meditate my way through this existential crisis instead of, you know, actually feeling my feelings.” Imagine trying to run a marathon while wearing a blindfold. Sure, you might get somewhere eventually, but you’re likely to trip over something very real (like your emotions) along the way.


Fragmentation: The Good vs. Bad Emotion Game


At the heart of spiritual bypassing is a tendency to fragment our emotional experiences, labeling them as "good" or "bad." In yoga circles, it’s not uncommon to hear well-meaning practitioners (and even teachers) declare that certain emotions or activities are simply “not spiritual.” When this happens, feelings like anger or sadness can get dismissed as unworthy or “wrong.” It's like deciding that only the pious aspects of life are valid—good luck finding balance that way!


This emotional sorting can lead to spiritual repression, leaving us with an incomplete emotional toolkit. After all, if we only welcome certain feelings or activities, we might end up living in a state of constant tension, much like holding a challenging pose for too long.


The Value of All Emotions


Being human means embracing a full spectrum of emotions—each one plays a valuable role in our growth. Authentic healing within yoga acknowledges that even the so-called "negative" emotions have important lessons to teach us. Rather than running from discomfort, we can lean into it.


When we cultivate awareness through our practice, we can see that emotions aren’t enemies; they’re part of our journey. For example, sadness can prompt deeper connections, while anger or frustration may inspire us to set necessary boundaries. Understanding these feelings within context allows us to weave them into our spiritual path rather than bypass them.


Navigating Judgments and Emotions


In yoga communities, it’s not uncommon to encounter those who judge certain feelings or behaviors as “bad” or “wrong.” Perhaps they roll their eyes at someone expressing frustration or dismiss those who aren’t perpetually positive or poised. But here’s the truth: these judgments often stem from their own spiritual bypassing. It’s much easier to label emotions as negative than to face the complexity of being human.


Bringing a Light Touch to Our Practice


To gently steer clear of spiritual bypassing, consider these approaches:


  1. Embrace All Emotions: Create space in your practice for the full range of feelings. Allow yourself to notice what arises without judgment. It’s okay to feel frustrated—it's all part of the experience of life.

  2. Practice Emotional Awareness: Use mindfulness to cultivate an understanding of your emotional responses. Journaling about your feelings or sharing with a trusted friend can help you process without pretense.

  3. Balance Your Practices: While yoga is a fantastic tool for fostering positivity, balance it with practices that encourage emotional processing. Integrative approaches like restorative yoga and self-inquiry can be especially nurturing.

  4. Stay Curious: Approach your emotions with curiosity rather than judgment. Ask yourself what each feeling is trying to teach you—this inquiry can lead to profound insights about yourself and become a huge opportunity for growth.

  5. Engage with Community: Surround yourself with supportive individuals who value authentic sharing. Remember, everyone has off days, and sharing those experiences can create a richer, more compassionate community.


Embracing our Human Experience



Understanding spiritual bypassing invites us to embrace the entirety of our emotional experiences. Instead of sidestepping discomfort, we can acknowledge and integrate our feelings into our journey. By valuing all emotions, we cultivate a deeper, more authentic spiritual practice that honors the complexity of being human.


At the end of the day, spiritual bypassing is a detour on the highway of emotional growth. Instead of taking the scenic route around our feelings, let’s dive into the messy, complicated, and beautiful journey of being human. After all, it’s through the full spectrum of our emotions that we find the richness of life and, ultimately, a more profound spiritual awakening. So the next time you're tempted to skip over the emotional hard stuff, remind yourself that even in the realm of spirituality, every emotion deserves a seat at the table.


All emotions are part of the beautifully messy tapestry of life. Embrace them, learn from them, and perhaps share a knowing smile with a friend who’s also navigating the highs and lows. After all, in the end, we’re all just trying to find our balance—one breath at a time.


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